Sex on psychedelics can be fantastic, and utterly indescribable. Though hallucinogens effect people in different ways, shrooms are the cleanest, smoothest, easiest hallucinogenic trip, in my humble experience. I haven’t tried every possible psychedelic drug out there so I cannot make that statement with 100% certainty, but I’ve done enough to know that for me, shrooms hold a special place in my heart for a reliable trip. However, for those of you have not done psychedelics, regardless of the type, I would not recommend attempting sex during your first experience.
Some people only enjoy sex after they’ve come down from tripping, while others prefer it at the height of the trip. It doesn’t matter how much experience you have with psychedelics, there are many psychedelic veterans who don’t enjoy sex at the peak of visuals and an expanding mind. Regardless, sex on shrooms can provide a new outlook on the act of sex in it’s entire. While other drugs can intensify touch and inhibit behavior, magic mushrooms will do that while flipping your world around.
It should be noted that if you’re planning on taking shrooms and having sex, you must do it with someone you are completely comfortable with. Psychedelics have a keen way of bringing close people closer and widening the distance between those who aren’t. If you’re going into the trip with any tensions or resentment toward your partner, you’re going to have a bad time.
On that same note, sex on psychedelics can cause people to do weird things. Crying, laughing, and a blatant display of the entire spectrum of emotions in-between are not uncommon on shrooms and can be a natural reaction to even the most unassuming stimulus. Again, you need to be comfortable enough with the person you’re tripping with that you won’t feel the need to suppress any emotions that may arise during your trip.
There is very little legitimate scientific evidence on shrooms’ effect on sex, as you can imagine. Most information we know about it is from first-hand accounts. On average, most people take longer to achieve an orgasm while on magic mushrooms. Many have sexual experiences that last hours and hours. This applies to both men and women, but certainly does not account for every case. At the same time, women who have trouble achieving orgasm during sex shouldn’t be discouraged: magic mushrooms can help clear your mind, free your thoughts, and allow you to relinquish control, as mental blocks are often what cause women to not be able to reach an orgasm. Some even report that shrooms make them horny and increase existing sexual tension.
However, some people have difficulty with sex on shrooms for this very reason - sex can seem like it’s not going anywhere and it’s easy to become distracted by other things.
My own personal experiences with the drug as taught me a few important things about sex and intimacy while on shrooms. Two instances in particular are note-worthy:
The first time I took magic mushrooms, I was with two people who I had no intention of sleeping with. I spent most of my trip just thinking, and every now and again the subject of sex would come into my mind. At the time, in a totally non-sexual scenario, I remember thinking that I was somehow “above” sex, like the experience was better than sex. Then again, I felt like I was above the entire world at the time. This was mainly due to my racing thoughts and the extreme hallucinations I experienced. Actually, “hallucination” is not the right word for the visuals you experience during a trip on mushrooms. You don’t see anything that isn’t already there, you just see real objects in a distorted way.
I should also note that I spent a lot of this trip curled up on a couch with my best friend playing with each other’s hands. It felt like our bodies meshed together into one person and it was an intimate, but not sexual, experience.
If you’re taking a high dose of shrooms, sex may be out of the picture entirely. One or both parties may be so deep into their trip that they’re not in the mindset to have sex.
However, intimacy is still possible, and sex after the height of the trip can still be pursued.
Visuals, as previously mentioned, should not be too much of an issue because they’re simply distorting reality, not creating any real hallucinations. You’re not going to see your partner’s arms turn into serpents when they reach out for you or any other disturbing visuals. You’ll probably see their eyes twinkle, any scars that they have dance, their skin ripple like waves or patterns emerge, their hair flow, et cetera. Colors can also be distorted as well. Mundane things will most likely look distorted and strange. For many, this is a beautiful distortion, a welcome strangeness. Some, though, may become uneasy at the sight.
Another time, my boyfriend surprised me with shrooms one night after a party. We were back at my house so we ate them, turned off the lights but left on a string of Christmas lights, put on some funk music, and went at it. By the time things got started, I was solidly ascending into the trip, but still in that giggly phase that happens often before the visuals start. I was on top of him and instead of sliding my undies off naturally, I started to try to take them off and ended up at the complete other end of the bed with them around my ankles in hysterical laughter. Once I finally freed myself from my underwear shackles, I went to mount him but I had to stop and pause to get out the rest of my giggles before proceeding. By the time I finally got back on top of him, I was in a totally different mindset and ready to go.
For me, sex on shrooms was really really fun. What made it great was the atmosphere - the lighting and the music. Being on shrooms for many demands a safe, calm environment, and sex on shrooms should require the same. During the act, I felt really powerful and I couldn’t wrap my mind around how happy I was. It didn’t register to me how long we were going at it until it was almost over when I had a sort of snap-back into reality. Needless to say, this was some of the best sex I ever had. Afterwards, my boyfriend and I lounged around naked for hours and enjoyed the rest of the trip.
All other literature on the topic states that you should not have sex until the comedown. Though I can say that my experience was divine, this is still safe advice to follow, especially for first-timers.
This time, I took a much lower dose and would highly recommend doing so for yours as well. 2-2.5 grams should suffice, especially for first-timers. It’ll help you focus and be present in the moment.
One of the most important things to remember about sex on shrooms is that it should never forced. Even if you and a partner plan on having a night alone to trip together, and even if you’re both ready and willing to have sex prior to the trip, either party’s mindset can change once tripping begins. Shrooms can cause nausea, dizziness, and even sexual disfunction. To ease nausea, it can be helpful to smoke marijuana prior to or even after taking shrooms, but only if you have had adequate experience with the plant and are comfortable with its effects. I’ve paired the two every time I’ve taken shrooms and would highly recommend doing so if you’re an experienced smoker.
Mental state and hypersensitivity to your environment/others will play a role as well. Neither party should pressure the other because ultimately, shrooms are about having fun and can be a great way to foster intimacy and grow closer to your partner without the need to have sex. But if you do, make sure to take all prior precautions that you would in a sober state of mind. If this means leaving condoms out so you aren’t tempted to ride bareback or writing your safe-word in big letters somewhere so both parties won’t forget it, then so be it.